Do You?

Do you believe in love?
Do you believe in marriage?
Do you think there is only one right person for you or many possibilities?
Have you ever had your heart broken?
What inspires you?
What are your dreams?
What places do you want to travel to in the future?
What do you want to do with your life?
What are your thoughts on God?
What are your spiritual beliefs?
What causes do you believe most strongly in?
What are your talents and strengths?
What are your spiritual gifts?
What do you like best about yourself?
What would you change about yourself?
What do you struggle with?
Do you consider yourself an optimist or a pessimist?
Do you believe in second chances?
What things make you angry?
Are you more task-oriented or people-oriented?
What is your family like?
Are you more comfortable with kids or pets?
What do you like to do for fun?
Do you always run early or late?
What genres of movies and types of books do you like best?
Who are your role models?
What is your preferred method of communication?
What is your primary love language?

Author’s note: I published this yesterday on my poemhunter poet page. It may not be poetry in a pure sense, but I was inspired to write a list of questions that seem especially helpful to ask in a romantic context. Some of these questions are also good for getting to know friends and family on a deeper level. Feel free to use and share these questions! ūüôā

Pablo Neruda is a Beautiful Poet

Poetry is a beautiful way to convey the deepest emotions of the heart.  I feel that song lyrics and poetry are also some of the best ways to express love.

I stumbled upon the poet Pablo Neruda recently, and I had never heard of him before.  Actually, Neruda was #2 of top 500 poets the other day on www.poemhunter.com  before even Emily Dickinson, Robert Frost, and William Shakespeare.  However, when I just checked a few moments ago, Dickinson and Shakespeare have surpassed Neruda, who is holding his own in fourth place.  He is DEFINITITELY worth checking out (currently #4, #8, and #17 top poems of top 500 poem list are by Neruda on www.poemhunter.com).

According to Wikipedia, Neruda is a¬†¬†Chilean poet who lived from 1904-1973 who chose that pen name (and later legal name) after a Czech poet, Jan Neruda.¬† Kudos to Neruda, and as I am part Czech and my Grandpa came over from there as a child, so thus I find his choice of name¬†exceptionally awesome.¬† Also, kudos to whoever (i.e. inspiring teacher or poet aficionado or random cool person) has written various quotes by Pablo Neruda in a classroom at a building where I work….they led me to stumble onto Neruda and his love poetry.¬† Some of his poetry may be slightly racy, but nowhere near as racy (in my opinion) as Song of Solomon in the Bible.¬† A final random note from the entry on Neruda at Wikipedia states that he¬†“always wrote in green ink as it was his personal colour of hope.”¬† I relate 100-fold, because most of the time I write in purple pen,¬†since purple is one of my favorite colors, it is quite beautiful and inspiring, and it is a break from the dull monotony of black ink.

Here are some poetry excerpts by Neruda.  Enjoy!

Excerpt from “If You Forget Me” (Currently #4 on top 500 Poems; source= www.poemhunter.com)

“But

if each day,

each hour,

you feel that you are destined for me

with implacable sweetness,

if each day a flower

climbs up to your lips to seek me,

ah my love, ah my own,

in me all that fire is repeated,

in me nothing is extinguished or forgotten,

my love feeds on your love, beloved,

and as long as you live it will be in your arms

without leaving mine.”

~Pablo Neruda
excerpt from Sonnet XVII (source: www.poemhunter.com)
“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;
so I love you because I know no other way…”
~ Pablo Neruda
A third excerpt by Pablo Neruda is from “Tie Your Heart At Night To Mine, Love,”
“So that our dream might reply
to the sky’s questioning stars
with one key, one door closed to shadow”
~ Pablo Neruda

Love, rejection, and poetry (a.k.a. a heart, a wall, and vulnerabilty)

Author: Bagande

Image via Wikipedia

I am an occasional poet. When I get inspired, poems in my journal typically seem to fall in the category of being about love, faith, or God. I am a firm believer that love exists in many forms: a mother to a child, a friend to a friend, selfless love leading to action in order to help humanity….as well as of course romantic love. Many of the famous songs of old are about the passion and perils of romantic love….finding love, heartbreak, the ache of unrequited love….life and literature is ripe with tales and woes of romantic love. Love may at times seem elusive….and barriers to love exist, as we all know.

Personally, I’m an introspective person, and my educational background in the counseling field and Sociology has led me to examine myself, as well as family of origin, in order to know myself more (not that there is an end to this process, however, since life is a series of growth and change, and people really should not stay static). I am a firm believer in socialization and the fact that people are shaped by their culture, society, and country of origin. Families are part of this process. For example, I believe that children of divorce, as adults, can have issues and ambivalence with romantic love…these issues can and do affect these individuals in dating and marriage. I see this truth when I examine myself and my own desire for, and yet skittishness toward, romantic love. It can be hard, at times, for me to be vulnerable in this area. It does not help that an ex-boyfriend of mine in college broke up with me on my birthday, with no birthday present and right before Valentine’s Day, to boot. To be fair, I guess technically it was the day after my birthday, because the break-up talk started on my birthday but carried over till a bit after midnight…but still, I kind of think that there should be some unwritten rule (or social norm, perhaps?) in dating where a boyfriend should not break up with a girlfriend on her birthday (and vice versa). It is just plain wrong, honestly. Also, another facet of romantic love is marital love. I find it sad to think of marital love not lasting a lifetime…all too often people say “till death do us part”, and yet when trouble comes, such as financial difficulties or other hardships, then those same people give up on their marriage, maybe lamenting “it just wasn’t meant to be.” I think this mentality is incredibly tragic.

Rejection is a part of the elusive search for romantic love. Who likes rejection? No one. It is painful and raw. However, often the process to achieving romantic love will involve rejection, either in dating rejection or in pain from past relationships and break-ups. Rejection can transcend romantic love, however….there is also the pain of childhood rejection (i.e. being picked last for the athletic team in high school physical education class….for me that happened when one of my friends was picking teams and I was last picked…that was painful and did not help my self confidence in my athletic abilities). Rejection is a fact of life, whether it be in the career field or more relational in nature. Vulnerabilty is needed in order to find romantic love, but all too often walls are put up to safeguard one’s heart, and to not be hurt any more than one has already been hurt. These walls are problematic, however, and need to be dismantled in order to find a successful outcome in a dating or marital relationship.

Alright, I want to end with a short poem that I wrote about, what else? Love.

Love

Love ? I love love love you.

Love ? I love love love you. (Photo credit: @Doug88888)

Love.

Ambiguously messy.

Vulnerability in the upmost.

Heart to heart. Hope to hope. Healing is the vibe.

Love.

So often in this world

strings are attached

and expectations abound

regarding love.

But the better way

will never cease to be

a pure foundation

and a fiber weaving throughout

in a brilliant tapestry

of rich hues

of reds and golds

and filled with warmth and clarity

and an unconditional love

that is healing, hopeful, and vulnerable

and that truly is forevermore.

Love Love Love

Love Love Love (Photo credit: Gregory Jordan)