“Shy Boy” (A Poem)

The boy
no one notices
because he
will not cause a scene
or even raise
his hand in class
is sensitive,
and quieter.
He processes things internally
and is an introvert at heart.
He thinks Clark Kent
is cool,
not just Superman.
He hates public speaking
and big crowds.
He wishes girls would initiate
in the dating realm
and often
talking to girls
makes him nervous.
Being the center of attention
sounds unpleasant to him.                                                                                                                                                                                                It makes him uncomfortable,
and he feels on the spot.

He is a shy boy.

Poet’s notes: I wanted to write a poem about a shy boy.  I know the shy girl perspective, because often I am a shy girl, especially with guys and in classes and large crowds.  I hope this poem accurately reflects things that shy guys feel, and it is a counterpart to my poem “Shy Girl.”



I’m going to feel Deprived if my Husband doesn’t Cook

Pot roast

Pot roast (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I’m going to feel deprived if my husband doesn’t cook.  In my head is this fantasy that I have, and I just laughed as I wrote that, because in this fantasy my (future) husband likes to cook.  Steak.  Mashed potatoes.  Chicken.  Pot roast.  Tacos.  You get my drift.  Oh, but my future husband doesn’t mind baking, either.  Chocolate cake.  Brownies.  Cookies.  Banana nut Muffins.  I laugh to myself again.  You are probably laughing at me, too.  Or, perhaps you are outraged.  Actually, that is kind of the mood I am in.   I feel like pushing the envelope a bit.  I’m not outraged, but actually I just want to set gender expectations on their head.

So I was just eating dinner tonight and thinking about how I feel like a “bad” female, because honestly I don’t really like to cook.  I was always too busy reading to help my Mom in the kitchen, and she would have to push and prod me.  So, I really don’t know how to cook.  That is part of the problem.  Also, I hate dishes.  But, I have a dish washer now, so you ask what is my excuse?  Truth be told, my Mom even recently subscribed me to Rachel Ray’s magazine, but I find myself flipping through it thinking that certain foods look good, but then I stumble at the action point where I need to go out and buy the needed ingredients to make the meal.  My observation is that if you don’t have basic ingredients to start with, then your grocery bill can burst your budget and be a major detriment into your foray into cooking.

I fear my future husband will feel deprived with my lack of domesticity.  Here is what “gets me.”  Women are expected to work full-time.  Be thin (and I must say that the older I become, the harder that is, especially with the genetic predisposition of the women in my family).  Be beautiful.  Be sweet.  Love children.  Do the bulk (if not all) of the cleaning in your home.  And, finally, be a domestic “goddess.”  But what happens when you don’t wear the red polka-dot apron and make an amazing pot roast?

Society likes to play it both ways.  Women need to work outside the home, but they need to shine in the home sphere, too.  If you don’t, then you deprive your husband (thus goes the logic).  Your husband deserves a good home cooked meal.  And why would a woman want to “waste” a college education if she decides she wants to raise her children and stay at home?  Is that not a noble profession, or does she have to be climbing the corporate or academic ladder to get applauded?  I think many women get burned out running from full-time work to PTA meetings to kid’s soccer practice, and trying to be home in time to make a five course meal may be an unfair burden that society places on women.  Women can juggle many things successfully, but I think fairness and equality is a standard to be obtained in both the work and home sphere.  Why can’t husbands cook, too?  While I definitely will not feel deprived if my future husband doesn’t cook (FYI, I was just stirring the pot), I do hope that my husband will at least like to grill out, or he will enjoy cooking with me as we learn to cook together.  A girl can dream.


Starbucks Holiday Winter Drinks are here (2013 edition)!!!

Starbucks Winter Drinks are here!!!  (Photo by Julie A. Smith); cup courtesy of Starbucks

Starbucks Winter Drinks are here!!! (Photo by Julie A. Smith); cup courtesy of Starbucks

I am not a winter fan, and the thought of snowy winters every year in my native state of Illinois usually makes me want to move to California, truth be told.  Or perhaps Texas.  However, one perk of winter is the arrival of Starbucks holiday drinks.  Yes, we can debate about how it is not winter yet and technically still is fall, but holiday time is upon us as stores bring out Christmas displays and people start Christmas shopping.   I believe Starbucks still has one fall seasonal drink, pumpkin spice latte, available, but you may want to get it before Thanksgiving when it may become passé.

I received an e-mail from Starbucks on 11/1/13 announcing “What’s red and full of joy?” (answer: their red holiday cups).  Starbucks holiday drinks are out!  Their trio of holiday drinks is Caramel Brulee Latte, Peppermint Mocha, and Gingerbread Latte.  (Note: menu may vary by location).  I feel late to the party, as I kept seeing my friends on Facebook post pics of themselves with Starbucks holiday drinks.  Some of my friends love Starbucks as much as I do, and in the case of my friend Amber, probably more.  Finally, I went to Starbucks this past Thursday and got a Peppermint Mocha.  While I am more of an Andes mint girl, that is not a mocha option, so Peppermint it was.  I found out that you can get that year round, according to the Starbucks barrista, but only you don’t get the chocolate shavings, which in my opinion makes the drink.  The Starbucks drive-through guy also mentioned the eggnog latte when I said I was excited about the seasonal drinks being out.  It seems the eggnog latte is not getting as much publicity as the other holiday drinks, but I think it may be out already, too.

Unfortunately, the Starbucks iPhone app does NOT list the holiday drinks yet, which I find surprising for publicity sake and for providing consumers detailed descriptions and nutritional information of Starbucks holiday drinks.   Perhaps they will update their drink listings on the app in the future, but for now I want to give a shout-out to say if you are a fan of Starbucks holiday drinks, they have arrived if you want to go get one!

It is hard to write about Starbucks and not want to go there, so I think I may take my own advice and run out and get the Caramel Brulee Latte.  Woohoo!